On a day like this, when sudden, sad news travels from the other side of the planet and a trip to say farewell and grieve with loved ones is not an option, I wonder what the fuck I am doing with my life … and then something wonderful happens to remind me this is the life I choose and this is the price I pay.<\/p>\n
Cousins, aunties, uncles, family friends — please hold each other close and appreciate your physical presence and know I am with you in my thoughts and tears. Friends, tell your family you appreciate them and you love them.<\/p>\n
They will leave before you are ready.<\/p>\n
It helps to connect with people who have and will experience loss from afar who understand just how tough it can be. I have been learning how to grieve alone over these many years living far away from my people and the place I grew up and it doesn’t get easier but nor does it get more difficult.<\/p>\n
Fortunately, I don’t have to worry about anyone from home understanding and accepting my absence. It is a double-edged sword, that one.<\/p>\n
I recognize I have reached an age where this will become a more frequent occurrence. With friends and friends-who-are-family around the world, it will be impossible to be there physically to say good-bye each time.<\/p>\n
Until, of course, I can shape-shift and time-travel so I can be anywhere in an instant.<\/p>\n
<\/p>\n
We grew up together, we did, and not being with you right now to say goodbye to Auntie Hilda is breaking my heart.<\/p>\n
I love you, Kimptons. Always have. Always will.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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